What do you fight for?

Now here's something that I haven't done in a while.

Every now and then it helps to take some time to write down your thoughts, mainly because it's like having a conversation with someone who won't look at you funny, or judge you, or laugh when they aren't supposed to, or ask stupid questions or even tell you that you are right or wrong.

It's one sided and that's sometimes all you want - to be heard.

I had a change in my life philosophy early on this year.

I previously lived for myself, I was single and I didn't really think anything of it - you did things when you want to, you buy things for yourself - essentially its a fairly selfish existence, but it is never viewed that way - because there are so many people living that way.

But it's only when you meet someone that is truly fantastic, that takes your breath away, that is always in the back or front of your mind, that you want to share your entire life with - do you realise just how selfish you have been.

Sure there is most definitely a learning curve, going from doing your own thing to doing things with both of you in mind is quite of a shock but is it worth it? absolutely.

So here is what I have to say to anyone living for themselves.

Take a chance, say screw it and give yourself whole heartedly to your emotions or someone else, sure - it might not work out or pay off and you could end up getting hurt but life is a series of events that shape and mould us and has undoubtedly, turned you into the person that you are today.

Without experiencing pain or love how are we to know what's worth fighting for?

Have a bad relationship? you recognise the signs of such and you learn to compartmentalise and distance yourself to save yourself from future pain, but never let that affect your present or future, don't throw something away just because there is a possibility that something might go wrong, or the going gets tough - that possibility is there all the time, it doesn't bother you when things are peachy?

But every now and then - you'll meet someone who you know is going to treat you right and when they say they aren't going to hurt you and that they love you, believe it or not, they mean it - those are the people worth fighting for, even if it is difficult.

There are just some things in this life worth fighting for, love and happiness are some of them, once you have found both of those things, every thing else that might be happening in your life comes second, if you find someone who truly makes you happy, hang on to them tightly and never let them go - fight when times get hard and cherish the good times.

It is worth remembering here that if you are in a relationship that perhaps has become slightly mundane, don't take anything for granted, it will be the commonplace activities that you miss the most.

Always make sure your partner knows exactly how you feel about them, rub their back, kiss them on the forehead, it might seem insignificant but it makes a world of difference, and above all else....

Communicate with each other.

Don't waste the experience that is love and a relationship.